Stop Conflict – Start Communicating

Does your relationship need a health check?

In the early days of our relationship, regardless of our sexual orientation, it can be hard to imagine taking each other for granted and not making time for each other. Over time, however, we can find ourselves slipping into ways of communicating and behaving that can have a detrimental effect on the long term health of our relationship.

We can become so wrapped up in the demands of working hard, running a home and seeing to the needs of our families that our communication revolves around who is going to pick up the kids, get the car to the garage or mow the lawn and we can feel like ships that pass in the night. Sound familiar? When was the last time that you really had fun together and looked into each others’ eyes and talked about what really matters to you?

Are you avoiding intimacy because it feels like another demand at the end of a very tiring day or because you are feeling unappreciated or resentful?

It can be difficult for us when we realise that we are not getting what we need from our relationship and that we don’t know how to get what we need.

Counsellors at A Time To Talk Counselling and Coaching Service say that a relationship does not need to be on the rocks to benefit from some help. Couples often say that they knew they needed to make changes but that was as far as they got. Clients say ‘We need to make more quality time for each other but life keeps getting in the way. We start off with good intentions but quickly slip back into our old ways, especially if it feels like our efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated”.

Couples can slowly drift apart for years without realising. Partners may turn to someone outside of their relationship for the friendship, fun, excitement and intimacy they no longer feel they have with their partner perhaps resulting in an affair which can be devastating.

Couples may stay together only to find when their families have grown up and they have more time on their hands that they no longer have anything in common or have become strangers. This may lead to a split at a time in their lives when they had hoped to be looking forward to enjoying old age together.

So what can you do as a couple?

At A Time To Talk Counselling and Coaching Service we believe that with our professional help many relationships can improve. We can support you to look objectively at the areas that are important to you both. Building on this knowledge we can offer you the tools to move forward together, making your relationship stronger and more fulfilling. You and partner will then be better able to withstand the difficulties that life throws in our paths.

If you feel you would like some help to improve the health and the future of your relationship with couples counselling, contact us at A Time To Talk Counselling and Coaching Service. Together we can work on helping you both to make the changes you feel are important in order to achieve the relationship that you want.